Being a Full time Mom.

I hear from all different places that being a mom is not a job. Its a chore.

Are you serious? It is SO not a chore....and yes..if mothers got paid to do what they do, we would all be billionaires.   

Hearing things like that, or mom shaming is definitely not okay in my book. 

Its the most disrespectful thing you EVER could say to a mom.  

Let me tell you a story..

There was a very independent girl. She always had a job and did well at what she did.  She was a very wild and free spirit who planned weddings for a living.

One day she got the news she was going to have twin babies. She and Her prince were so happy. 

One day she miscarried and the pregnancy took a turn.. she had to quit her job and take it easy.

When that baby boy was born, everything changed..

She changed him, 

she soothed him,

She cared for this little one

and she above all LOVED him

he showed signs of wanting someone to play with 

a year later, She got told she was pregnant with twins.  

she miscarried, again.... then a miracle happened... 

after she had to get a D.N.C, she went in a week later for a follow up...and was told there was a healthy fetus still in there...Our little Shiloh.

His name means * From God* 

He was born, and everything changed... 

His personality is so hard at times... so trying.... so exhausting. His needs were completely different from those of Little Jazzy mans.   

She decided she wanted to spend every waking moment with her children and was lucky enough to have that opportunity.  Her husband was very wealthy and educational man. 

She decided to stay home.

Yes, to deal with the tantrums, the cleaning, the laughter, the soccer games, the birthdays, the constant fighting and teasing, the emotional roller coaster and preschool, and regular school, taking them to appointments, having play dates, making sure that their needs were 100% met. 

That is what a mother does.

Im going to write down what I DO on a daily basis.

- Breakfast

-let dogs out

- dishes

- Take Shiloh to preschool

- spend one on one time with Jazzy man

-let dogs out

- Go get Shiloh

-Lunch

-Take Jasper to Kindergarten

-spend one on one time with Shiloh

- clean kitty litter

-Go get Jasper from school

-clean the kitchen

-laundry

-let dogs out

-fit a movie in 

-PTA

- Vaccume

- errands

- sweeping

- making sure kids get outside time

- babysitting

-  Get dinner ready

- bath time

-story time-

and when bedtime rolls around....

Really? You would think right?  Nope.... 

Shiloh still gets up 9 times a night. It gets so tiring. So hard. 

my patience gets tested more then you will ever know... And it gets SO hard... especially with my own health.

But I do it.

For free. Not because it is a chore. But because it is my responsibility to raise these beautiful children in LOVE.    I do not get paid, I have put my own needs last to make sure these children get what they need in life... your mom and dad did it ( hopefully) and now it is my turn.. 

My children are awesome. I wouldnt change it. But bottom line is,

Never tell a woman that being a stay at home mom isnt a job.

What is a job to you?  Answer that and then look at what a mom does.

The Word SEX

AH HAH!! You opened this... therefore you were intrigued. And I bet your one of a " few" who refuses to talk about it.    This post is going to be weird because I am going to get all weird and personal... I feel its quite important to talk about this issue especially in the L.d.s community, its basically shunned to talk about.
I seriously do not even believe how NOT talked about it is..I mean lets get with the times...and be honest... We Mormons breed like crazy.. Every-time I even mention anything about sex, I somehow loose friends in the church... or I get avoided.  Its so dumb.
I'm not going to quit going to church. I intend to go for the rest of my life. But I'm not going to be ashamed to talk about a perfectly NORMAL act of love. Sex is beautiful and bonds two people together for the rest of your life.
I once made a comment about a penis because I didn't understand why a penis had anything to do with holding the priesthood in the bible times... perfectly normal question to ask... it had to do with the lesson..
The moment i asked the question, i got yelled at not only by the bishop, one of the stake presidency ( prouse)  and some of the relief society presidency... Ben and I sat there like..." your kidding right?" It was a legit question and I didn't understand.   SO...  I did what any normal person who doesnt understand something WOULD do....I asked " what does an uncircumcised penis have to do with holding the priesthood"

Now 10 weeks later,

 i'm still getting shunned by people and treated so poorly that it hurts...
I've realized i cant change others or how they view me.....  I asked a question that had the word " penis" in it... and now, i feel like i don't even belong anymore.
BUT!.... I am a Schnebly ( by adoption ) and a Curtice ( by blood ) and I am persistent and I realized my testimony comes before liking others.  
AND FOR THE RECORD... a woman who breastfeeds gets shunned too. Her baby cries and she pulls out her boob and its quiet and she gets shunned too... What...the ...hell is wrong with people and doing natural things?!
ANYWAYS...
So the topic I am going to be talking about today is.......

Yes, I said it.
Its healthy to say and Do for that matter.  I'm not by any means telling unwed couples to go off and do it.  This is directly for Married couples or Couples who are mature and old enough to make their own decisions in life.

As Cameron Diaz Said " It is what we are here to do." ( This is for adults only) 

I was blessed in life to find someone who completes me. Sex was meaningless to me ( no offence to those Who had the opportunity to share that experience with me haha ) until i met someone who taught me that passion exists and its more then just "feeling"  Its combining how two people feel. 

Its a normal thing and should not be shunned, or talked bad about... Don't be crude about it by any means or crass... Talk about it in a way that you are proud to have found that special someone who completes you and would do anything for you enough that you share your whole world with and bed. 

Plus...

Lets again, be honest with ourselves: there are a ton of health benefits to sex, and yes, I shall outline them for you!

What did you say?, Why YES all of them are true. :)  

Growing up, sex wasn't talked about in my home, and quite frankly i didn't know what i was feeling and so I went exploring and found a lot of stuff and it got me in trouble... 

Talk about sex people.  Its important.. and honestly, its natural. Get over yourselves and start talking about it.

 Do you think your better then the rest of us?.... I see you have 6 kids...  wow... you must be a crazy lady in the sheets :)  It clearly shows.. :) 

So bottom line. Sex is awesome. Doing it with someone you love is even more awesome. Doing it with your husband is even greater. 

All my love,